How Adaptability Makes You a Better Coach, Leader, and Human

Lessons in flexibility from the basketball court to real life

Ball handling was not my forte, but part of the game!

Last week, one of my young athletes taught me a lesson about adaptability that no business book ever could.

The Lesson I Learned From a Young Athlete

I was working with her on a crossover drill that seemed simple in my mind. She was giving it her all, completely focused and determined. But as I watched her, it hit me: I was approaching the drill from my perspective as someone who’s been playing for years, not from hers as someone still building these skills.

I’ve probably dribbled a basketball hundreds of thousands of times in my life (though I wish I’d done it even more so I could be that tall girl with impressive handles). The muscle memory is so ingrained that I forget what it feels like to think through each step. But when you’re learning something for the first time, you’re building those pathways from scratch.

Why Force Doesn’t Always Lead to Progress

When I first added basketball training to my mindset coaching practice, I thought I had it all figured out. I’d run athletes through the same drills that improved my game, share the same techniques that worked for me. Simple, right?

Wrong.

That session last week opened my eyes. She wasn’t struggling because she lacked effort or ability – she was working incredibly hard. She just needed me to meet her where she was in her development. I was teaching the advanced version to someone who was ready for the next logical step in her progression.

So I paused. Took a breath. And completely changed course.

Flexibility: The Missing Ingredient in Coaching and Business

Instead of the complex crossover sequence I’d planned, we broke it down into smaller parts. First, we worked on stationary ball handling. Then we added one step. Then another. Twenty minutes later, she was moving through a modified version of the original drill with growing confidence – and that satisfied smile that comes from feeling proud of learning something new.

That’s when it clicked for me. This wasn’t just about basketball. It was about something much bigger.

Adaptability as a Survival Skill

How often do we do this in life? We have a vision of how something should work, and when reality doesn’t match up, we keep trying to force it instead of adapting. Whether it’s in business, relationships, or personal goals, we often assume that if our approach isn’t working, we just need to push harder.

But what if the answer isn’t more force? What if it’s more flexibility?

Every entrepreneur talks about staying agile, but there’s a difference between understanding it intellectually and living it daily. Coaching has taught me that adaptability isn’t just a business buzzword – it’s a survival skill. When a drill isn’t working, I can’t just repeat the same instructions louder. I need to find a different way in.

Progress Through Small Wins

The beautiful thing is, when you give people (or yourself) permission to take the scenic route, amazing things happen. Skills that once seemed impossible become achievable. Concepts that felt overwhelming become manageable. Progress that felt stuck starts to flow again.

I’ve started applying this lesson beyond the basketball court. When I’m working with clients on mindset challenges, I pivot more quickly if something isn’t landing. When I’m building new programs for my business, I adjust course based on what I’m learning along the way.

Good Coaching, Good Business, Good Living

Most good things take longer than we expect. But that’s not a bug – it’s a feature. The process of figuring it out, of adapting and adjusting, is where the real learning happens. For my athletes, my clients, and definitely for me.

So the next time you feel stuck because something isn’t working the way you planned, remember that dedicated athlete who taught me about adaptability through her commitment to learning. Sometimes, the best way forward isn’t straight ahead – it’s around the corner, through the process, and up the other side.

That’s not just good coaching. That’s good living.